A two decade long friendship, which once involved much love and care, a kind of sheer friendship, which no one could dare break the bond, ultimately met its end. It showed two people with quite different mindsets, can be cohabited in the name of friendship. Morals, mindsets and ego never mattered, as hearts always speak only one language, its the language of love. The reunion after two years from schooling was possible with much ease. Infact, more rapport and more understanding after the reunion made the friendship more meaningful. He is a kind of friend whom anyone else can dream of having for a life time. A person so generous, loyal and trustworthy, that one can always count on him through the thick and thin. One can readily say a person is so blessed to have such a friend, who is ever so caring, a great helper at all times, very intellectual and interpid. Besides that, he knows each one of his friend's likes and dislikes so thoroughly and makes sure that his friends are happy.
Never ever in the worst of nightmares, someone could imagine that there comes a day, when he starts hating his beloved friend. Before one could imagine of happening so, the day has already come. When their friendship started communicating with brains rather than hearts , they wondered how they had been friends all the way long. The unconditional friendship suddenly seemed to have bounds laid in between. It is that each one has to act according to other’s wish. Then took its life, the enemy which is ever ready to break any relation….EGO. They were completely fed up with each other and decided not to buy into each other's culture. Each one started respecting their individuality and called it self-esteem.
The harmony was disturbed and then he started egressing away from his friend, picking out his people of priority. It came as a shock to the other person, as he was never expected to act that way. He created his own world with people who share the same ideas as his. He started abashing her and making sullen and satirical statements against her admist his people. Soon he didn’t even bother to throw a glance, even when he faced his friend. Little wonder when he started ignoring and rejecting his old , poor friend to the extent that he felt she did not exist . He began treating her as a cipher. He hates to talk to his friend, he hates to think about his friend, he hates to bother about her and finally he hates to see her.
It took her by surprise to see how the endearments once, turned out into bitter mocking remarks. Its typical for the other person to become so restive after realizing all that is happening to their friendship. There were countless moments of missing, of pain , and of tears for his friend. Each time she saw him , she suffered in agony for what had happened between them. Each time she would find him happy and cheerful with his friends, she would get lost in nostalgia. Each moment the fear of losing the person obscured her thoughts, loneliness surrounded and her composure exacerbated. She felt as if her world had suddenly turned lonely, leaving her a sequester life all alone . The solitude and pain slowly sapped her self-confidence . Hours and days passed away in cerebrating what went wrong, but in vain. These thoughts have been haunting too much each moment of day and night that she has become obsessessed and ended up in chaotic mental disaster. Its astounding that the person is still so boorish and indifferent to her. His callous attitude towards her, made her develop hostile feelings for him one day, for which she hated her reaction. A complex, ambivalent and imbroglio state she is in , if to still expect for something good to happen about their friendship, or start ignoring her friend and keep moving , like he already does; which by the way is so difficult for her. She is persistently worried about the wilting relation between them. But then she realized some relations have an end.
All this seems so weird that people forget their long sweet relations and give importance to their values and yield to the surge of their ego. What they miss is that, it breaks the other person’s heart and faith, not just the relation. So strange that years of trust, love and the bond of amity fall prey to ego. After all what matters are only people, relations and love. If you love somebody, love them for what they are and whatever they are. If you are to break a relationship, never make it. If you miss somebody, no matter, put your ego aside, and express it to him before it is too late; and see what difference it makes to your life. It is ok to cry for people. Never let your anger and ego take to you. Because a word or person once missed is missed forever, how much ever may you regret later and try hard to bring back. It would be great to have people around, who would always watch out for you.
With all due respects to my friend…..
--The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
